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一 | 妈宝男真是给男娃当妈的一大难题。 WASHINGTON -- An African American combat medic who was wounded while landing on Omaha Beach during the D-Day invasion but went on to tend to dozens of troops will be posthumously honored Wednesday in a ceremony at Arlington National Cemetery. His family and supporters continue to push for an even higher recognition they believe his heroism is owed.Cpl. Waverly B. Woodson Jr. was a 21-year-old Army medic assigned to the only African American combat unit to land in Normandy on June 6, 1944. His landing craft took heavy fire and he was wounded before even getting to the beach, but for the next 30 hours he treated 200 wounded men while under intense small arms and artillery fire before collapsing from his injuries and blood loss, according to accounts of his service.Woodson, who was born in Philadelphia and lived in Maryland with his wife, died in 2005. He spoke to The Associated Press in 1994 about his harrowing journey.“The tide brought us in, and that’s when the 88s hit us,” he said of the German 88mm guns. “They were murder. Of our 26 Navy personnel there was only one left. They raked the whole top of the ship and killed all the crew. Then they started with the mortar shells.”He survived and was awarded the Bronze Star, but by the time the award was finalized he was in Hawaii preparing for the invasion of Japan so there was little in the way of ceremony. And he was never awarded a Combat Medic Badge, which denotes that a medic has been in combat. To rectify that wrong, his former unit applied for Woodson to receive the badge and it was approved in August.His widow, Joann, and his son, Steve, will be presented with both honors during the ceremony at Arlington, where Woodson is buried.“He truly was a hero on Omaha Beach," said Capt. Kevin Braafladt, the historian for First Army. Woodson's unit, the 320th Barrage Balloon Battalion, was part of First Army during the invasion of Nazi-occupied France. The battalion was responsible for setting up explosive-rigged balloons to deter enemy planes.At a time when the U.S. military was still segregated by race, about 2,000 African American troops are believed to have taken part in the invasion. The balloon battalion was the only African American combat unit.Woodson's supporters have been pushing for years to see him awarded the Medal of Honor for his exploits during the invasion that was key to turning the tide in the war. Although 1.2 million Black Americans served in the military during World War II, none was among the original recipients of the Medal of Honor awarded in the conflict. The Army commissioned a study in the early 1990s to analyze whether Black troops had been unjustly overlooked during an era of widespread racism and segregation in the military. Ultimately, seven Black World War II troops were awarded the Medal of Honor in 1997.At the time, Woodson's case was part of the study and the authors interviewed him. But, they wrote, his decoration case file couldn't be found and his personnel records destroyed in a 1973 fire at a military records facility. Braafladt said the U.S. military made a conscious effort to reduce paperwork after the war, and that the fire at a military records facility in Missouri also destroyed countless documents.His supporters aren't giving up. First Army and Braafladt have been on a mission to document Woodson's actions on D-Day in hopes of getting the Medal of Honor for him. Braafladt is convinced — “100%” — that Woodson was recommended at the time of the war for the Medal of Honor.One of the pieces of information pointing to that conclusion is a memo talking about how Woodson had been recommended for the Distinguished Service Cross but a top general decided the recommendation should be for the Medal of Honor instead.Braafladt first heard about Woodson's case around 2020 and has been obsessively searching for documents that will help make Woodson's case. He has not yet found the Medal of Honor recommendation letter, but along the way he has found documents he thinks buttress the case. Just last week he received the text describing Woodson's Bronze Star citation.“I’m one document away from getting an answer here and righting a wrong.” he said.U.S. Sen. Chris Van Hollen, a Democrat from Maryland, where Woodson's widow now lives, has also been pushing since 2015 to have Woodson honored with the Medal of Honor, and has introduced legislation to that effect in Congress.Woodson's son said in a telephone interview that his father rarely talked about World War II until late in his life and then only in bits and pieces. The family would like to see him honored with the Medal of Honor not only to shine a spotlight on his heroism but to highlight the efforts of Woodson's unit and all Black troops. Steve Woodson said he'd be disappointed if his father does not get the Medal of Honor, but he's also grateful for all the recognition and honors that have come so far. “If he gets it, that’s fabulous. If he doesn’t, we will just continue to put his legacy forward,” he said.。特别是小时候，又得呵护，又得注意不能养成什么都找妈的习惯。图图是在伦敦出生的。我和我老公自己带。他一岁前，光是吃喝拉撒睡觉冷暖这些问题，我就感觉到国内外的方式完全不同。

二 | 我个人感觉，国内对孩子的养护真是极致到了宇宙的尽头。特别是短视频里那些过分警告孩子会怎样怎样的傻叉论述，导致热爱看这些的祖父母，跟我们这一代父母，经常因为带娃的小事起争执。哭一会就会有情感阴影，坐久了伤脊椎，吃任何东西都会呛着，冬天裤子露脚踝了就会感冒，摸摸脸蛋就会脸颊发炎…... 图图10个月的时候，我带他回家拍全家福，有一幕特别逗。进影棚之前，有好几家一起在等。

三 | 我老公双手抓着娃小手玩，举高高了一下。

四 | 一瞬间包括工作人员在内，一起惊呼“He!” 一边惊呼还集体向后退，像水花炸开了一样。他们估计觉得，我娃的脊椎这么一下，就要断了。我老公是东欧人，家里说俄语为主，养育方式比较tough，特别是男娃。他们更在乎养成普京那样的男子，七十多岁泡冰水里养生那种。我老公三岁就开始被锻炼做很多家务。即使有阿姨，他的房间一定是自己打扫。很多体育运动，很多下田的农活，培育体格和性格。图图小时候，到了冬天也不会穿很多，我老公偶尔还给他洗洗冷水澡，上一上普京那种提高免疫力的东欧方法。一岁前的大冬天，我自己带他去上游泳课，两个人从泳池出来了也没啥人帮忙的，洗洗擦干盖上保暖的大衣就回家，没法太细致。我个人的体验是国内遇见的妈宝男真的很多，我真的好奇是不是跟近年的养育文化有关。男娃被当成了特别稀奇的物种。

五 | 可是温室养法，养不出能经历风雨的树。

六 | 越稀奇越绝种啊，你看看大熊猫。可是，每个人一定会经历风雨，没有父母能帮助挡一辈子。

七 | 当然，英国我也待得不长，我也没有严格的统计数据来比较。全球化之后的流动性也大——我纯属个人吐吐槽。英国也一定有妈宝男。

八 | 我有个之前的合作伙伴，还是我老乡，就base伦敦。看起来各种光鲜的金融男，可真的事事费妈。大事找妈，小事找老婆。当这位妈宝男的妈妈代表他来找我吃饭，替他三十多岁的儿子谈合作和分账方式，以及规划人生的时候，我真的震惊了。立马停止合作。

九 | 我感觉英式教育里养出妈宝男的概率小，只是个人这五年在英国上学工作，待人接物的感受。

十 | 西方文化里，大多数老外会觉得经常找妈是一个很丢脸的事情，特别男娃。图图干妈说，在伦敦路上，往往看见老外家庭是一带五。中国家庭反过来，五带一。最近给图图看学校，也有不少心得。从幼儿园开始，很多学校都会强调接触户外和大自然。从小学开始，很多学校就强调如何培育独立性（Independence）和独立思考，学习之外还有非常多的运动项目和俱乐部。从小就做题家的我，听到这些是很新鲜的。我接受的中式教育更重视知识的灌输，很少强调要走出去，很少强调玩的重要性。剑桥的人类学教授麦克法兰研究英式教育和英国社会，有好几本著作。他说，英式教育中团队运动比数学更重要，因为团体运动“teach you the centre art of life”。大家不会崇拜数学考得好的人，而是会跟着足球队队长去打拼。因为在一个团队运动里当队长，需要很强的交往能力和平衡精神。比如足球，一个孩子需要学习去平衡，自己要踢多久的球，什么时候把自己脚上的球传给别人。这种能力正是解决各种人生难题的核心——麦克法兰说，这种教育设计体现了亚当斯密对于一个人平衡“self love”和“social love”的思考。这种教育设计其实根源于英国殖民时代，英国需要通过公学系统（boarding school)，培养能去全球范围殖民的外交和政治人才。这种传统英式教育的核心，在于让未来能力成为全球领导人的孩子，在离开家的情况的下去自己解决问题（solve problems away from home)。

十一 | 英国这么小一个岛国，有全球这么多殖民地，是懂点全球化领导的艺术的。麦克法兰自己就是外交官的后代。

十二 | 我印象特别深，他说从小他在英国的学校就是自己和同学们玩各种游戏（all kinds of games)，室内游戏和室外团体运动。

十三 | Netfilx的剧《王冠》第一季里，就有女王老公菲利普小时候在苏格兰的公学里上学的故事。环境那叫一个苦，成天在森林泥地里跑爬打滚— 他还是王室身份。他自己很感激这段经历，试图把儿子查尔斯送过去。

十四 | 查尔斯从小养尊处优惯了，几乎被父亲深爱的同一个学校击垮。结果就是转回更现代化（舒服）的学校。话说回来，英国学校也是很在乎读书和学习的，特别是阅读写作还有数学能力在national curriculum里是核心。但绝不会只强调书本学习，或者针对考学的能力培养。麦克法兰系统研究过英国工业革命的历史。很有意思的是，工作革命之前，日本的识字率比英国高，但工业革命这种历史级别的创新，并不发生在日本。他说，英式教育比较遵从人性和自然，对人的干预少。“一味的知识灌输，只会扼杀人性”。当然，这也只是我这个做题家妈妈的反思。不养出妈宝男的这条路，还很长。不仅是因为希望，我儿子童年可以真的快乐一些。关键如果长大了还妈宝，真是会一辈子费妈。共勉。本文来自微信公众号：糖总总，作者：糖总总。

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